What Is a Paradigm of Reality?
A paradigm of reality is our concept of what is real and how reality works. It is much more effectible and changeable than most of us realize. It is affected on many different level of our experience.
On an individual level, your experience of reality can radically change from day-to-day or even from moment-to-moment, depending on the particular experiences you’re having and the mood you’re in. For example, if you just got fired from your job, and your boyfriend just left you, you might feel life is against you. And then perhaps several weeks later you get a great job offer, and someone you have a crush on calls you and asks you out on a date. You might then feel life is really for you after all.
And then there are differences between the general paradigm of reality one person has from another. For example, a person who generally has a negative attitude toward life and fails at everything he or she tries, has a very different paradigm of reality than someone who generally sees the positive in life and succeeds in whatever they do.
There are also very strong cultural definitions about what is real and how life works, that have been handed down from generation to generation. And there is generally great pressure from the older generations to the younger generations to conform to them.
And then there are paradigms of reality held in place by humanity in general. For instance, most of humanity holds in place the belief that we are at the mercy of people and circumstances outside of ourselves, and that physical power is stronger than any other kind of power.
Each of us is holding in place a particular paradigm of reality. Every time we speak or take any action, or just be, we are expressing and holding in place the way we define reality, and we are modeling that paradigm of reality to those around us and influencing our environment accordingly. Our paradigm is formed according to the experiences we’ve had; how healthy or unhealthy we are physically, emotionally and spiritually; and the evolutionary stage we are at. The issue is: How close is your paradigm of reality to undistorted truth, and how much is it distorted by limiting decisions* you have made, or limited by the level of evolution you have reached?
People are generally very invested in holding in place their particular paradigm of reality, even when it’s highly distorted and dysfunctional. It is where we are really living, and is our source of stability. It is the ground we are standing on. It is how we define what is true. The objective is to move toward an increasingly positive and undistorted paradigm of reality.
*Limiting decisions: An NLP term used in NLP TimeLine counseling sessions to mean unconscious decisions, made in early childhood, that are some form of that life doesn’t work, and usually that there is something inherently wrong with you — such as “I am powerless,” “bad,” “unlovable;” “People can’t be trusted,” and so on. Limiting decisions are never true.